My partner refuses to get on board
Imagine feeling fully supported by your partner while using similar strategies and aligned thinking to support your struggling teen to find their way. “I was going through a very rough patch with my son… His dad was ballistic, but I shared your videos and got him on board with staying curious and keeping the communication […]
The heartbreak of holidays with your teen
Got any plans with your teen for spring break? “She wants to talk to me, hang out with me, she’s laughing more, and even asking my advice.” – Nikki H. Over the holidays, I saw a lot of posts in my community from heartbroken, amazing, parents whose teenager or young adult had a very different […]
Why loving intentions aren’t enough
Breaking generational cycles with your teen, AND feeling happier and more fulfilled yourself, is exactly what parents in my programs experience. “I will forever be grateful for you and your message. By listening to you, I became aware of some issues from my childhood that are impacting my marriage and parenting. I am now seeing […]
Why motivating teens to care about school isn’t working
Navigating the choppy waters of teenage education can feel like steering a ship through a storm, especially when your teen seems disengaged and unmotivated at school. I’m Allie Payne, a certified life coach and relationship systems coach, and I’ve walked this path myself. From being a straight-A student to battling with my own academic performance, […]
I’ll never be enough
If you think being a perfect parent feels hard, try being a teen. There’s a huge weight of measuring up that’s weighing them down even if you don’t see it on the outside. So many teens feel like they’re climbing an impossible mountain that’s imposed upon them and even if they try they never get […]
I’m bored
Here we go again… “No, no no! Not the free for all of summer again!! That boredom leads to nothing but more internet time or bad choices while hanging out with friends.” Your teen sees unlimited gaming/phone time, hanging out with friends, late nights, sleeping until the early afternoon and eating like crap as a […]
Creating a Safe Haven: Empowering Parents to Support Bullied Teens at School
YOU: “My teen is being bullied and I don’t know what to do” There’s more to supporting your teen through this awful experience than going after someone else’s child, even if that feels better in the short term. Advocating for your teen and being their safe ally to share and process their experience, feelings, and […]
Getting your teen to follow through with basic chores and tasks
Why is getting your teen to do what you asked so hard?? You’re asking nicely and being clear, yet your teen isn’t doing the chore/task. What’s even more frustrating? They said/texted YES and agreed!! Few things are more frustrating as a parent when you’re trying to have your teen contribute and learn new skills. Over […]
“You could focus if you wanted to”
Imagine you have a choice to: 1) act out in class, refuse to try or complete specific schoolwork, get in trouble all the time, be labeled the bad or stupid kid and struggle with social interactions, being clumsy and forgetful, feel shamed and criticized as your self-esteem takes a hit because your brain won’t seem […]
My teen avoids ALL responsibility!
ARGH!! Not only are you annoyed and angry at your teen’s lack of motivation, effort and constantly avoiding basic responsibility, you’re worried you’re going to be supporting them their whole life because they’re failing to launch. Your feelings are real and normal!! I thought them too while raising my sons and it was hard to […]