Hi, I’m Aly

Welcome to THE judgement free space for parents of tweens and teens doing one of the hardest jobs… without any training!

Pull up a chair, take a deep breath, and dig into my FREE tools to quickly reconnect with your teen that puberty exchanged for a moody, defiant stranger. 

Nobody plans to have teens

You used to be close until they changed overnight.

Your sweet, friendly, smiley, child who used to love hugs is now a self-absorbed, ungrateful, disrespectful teenager who answers every question with, ‘I don’t know’, or shuts you out completely.

I was your teen, only WORSE.

Despite fumbling through my own childhood trauma and ADHD, plus my oldest having Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD, I broke the cycle with my sons and raised confident, emotionally intelligent, trustworthy young men who avoided the pitfalls of hormonal hijacking. Today, I’ve helped thousands of parents just like you to do the same.


Day to day moments of connection, open communication and healthy boundaries. Rinse and repeat (even when your teen is being a jerk!).

It’s the step by step, proven framework that I LOVE TO TEACH because it ends the painful disconnection and exhausting power struggles of the adolescent years so your teen sees you as their ally, not the enemy.

Want my secrets to connecting with your teen, including honest communication and calmer conversations?

Freebies and Resources

Get my simple, proven tools to experience a more open, respectful relationship with your teen today.

Understanding Your Teen’s Brain

The answer to why your teen is being so difficult.

Improving Communication

The secret to getting your teen to listen AND talk more.


The key to processing emotions without projecting them.



How to transform your moody, hormonal teen into a compliant, respectful human without the daily nagging or punishments


The secret to getting your teen to like and listen to you!



Get the answer to why your teen is being so difficult!

It’s like a flip switched over night. Since when is it ok for your teen to talk to you like that?

Complete the form below and watch your inbox for the answers to why your teen is being so difficult, and what you can do about it.

Join my FREE 10 Day Listening Challenge!

Your relationship with your teen doesn’t have to be defined by arguing, emotional blow ups or stressful silences with no real communication.
In this 10 Day Listening Challenge, you’ll get daily emails and short videos addressing the key blocks to connection with tips and scripts to level up your listening skills so your teen WANTS to talk to you. Yes, it’s possible. Even with the most introverted teen.

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Get The Feelings Wheel

This is my number one tool I use with all families to improve communication and lower conflict by expanding their emotional vocabulary. And by filling out the information below, you’ll receive two videos on why it’s so important and more specifically how to use this tool.

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