I always felt different, like I didn’t belong. I could sense people’s feelings and see relationships unfolding around me in finite detail.
“Why were people so mean to each other?”
In spite of being a highly intelligent, creative and energetic child who excelled in school and sports, I struggled with deep pain and insecurity. That manifested into perfectionism, eating disorders, and anxiety that I carried most of my life.
My fairy tale marriage to my childhood sweetheart, who I met at my family reunion, almost ended because pretending to be his doting and loving wife became too much. I was seething with resentment, feeling like a failure and didn’t know how to change it.
Our first-born son was different from birth. I knew as every mother knows. The family legacy of anxiety and OCD appeared again through him and was a mirror for my own mental health. I couldn’t help him until I helped myself; asking questions I didn’t want answers to and looking in places I didn’t want to go.
My passion for empowering parents to connect with their teens began 14 years ago, along with helping top entrepreneurs, CEOs, and executives understand how to manage human dynamics and remove from toxicity from their corporate culture. It always came back to relationships, and you learn about those from your family.
I’ve been married to my husband, 3x Olympian, Jeff Pain, for over 23 years and we have two, incredible teen boys (and first-call Aunty for three teen nieces).
We call the beautiful Okanagan Valley in British Columbia home and enjoy paddle boarding, camping, hiking, and tending our garden in the summer and snowshoeing in the winter. I always have music playing – singing along and crazy dancing or doing Zumba.
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