Motivating your teen to study for exams

What if your teen did their schoolwork without the need for constant motivation? “Yesterday, my teen had a full on meltdown after attempting challenging math homework that she is super behind and told me she will just give up and not even try. I tried the statements Aly taught me and left her alone. After […]

When your teen’s fear of failure stops them from trying

What if your teen willingly faced challenges even when things felt hard? “… my teen had a full-on meltdown after attempting challenging math homework that she is super behind and told me she will just give up and not even try. I tried the statements Aly taught me and left her alone… After dinner my […]

4 Ways You’re Pushing Your Teen Away

What if you knew exactly what connection meant to your teen and how to quickly create it? “So I just did it… I went to my daughter’s room and shared very openly and vulnerable, … I said that I love her and want to be a better, supportive mom … And we had a moment […]

Behavior Correction + Consequences to Raise Compliant Teens

What if… … your teen took responsibility and made better choices after one conversation. “Just practiced using a script with my teen who stayed at his friend’s without permission…. He eventually apologized and I was able to leave the issue and not lose my temper and feel outraged. Felt good!” – Belinda But how is […]

My partner refuses to get on board

Imagine feeling fully supported by your partner while using similar strategies and aligned thinking to support your struggling teen to find their way. “I was going through a very rough patch with my son… His dad was ballistic, but I shared your videos and got him on board with staying curious and keeping the communication […]

The heartbreak of holidays with your teen

Got any plans with your teen for spring break? “She wants to talk to me, hang out with me, she’s laughing more, and even asking my advice.” – Nikki H. Over the holidays, I saw a lot of posts in my community from heartbroken, amazing, parents whose teenager or young adult had a very different […]

Why loving intentions aren’t enough

Breaking generational cycles with your teen, AND feeling happier and more fulfilled yourself, is exactly what parents in my programs experience. “I will forever be grateful for you and your message. By listening to you, I became aware of some issues from my childhood that are impacting my marriage and parenting. I am now seeing […]

Why motivating teens to care about school isn’t working

Navigating the choppy waters of teenage education can feel like steering a ship through a storm, especially when your teen seems disengaged and unmotivated at school. I’m Allie Payne, a certified life coach and relationship systems coach, and I’ve walked this path myself. From being a straight-A student to battling with my own academic performance, […]

I’ll never be enough

If you think being a perfect parent feels hard, try being a teen. There’s a huge weight of measuring up that’s weighing them down even if you don’t see it on the outside. So many teens feel like they’re climbing an impossible mountain that’s imposed upon them and even if they try they never get […]

I’m bored

Here we go again… “No, no no! Not the free for all of summer again!! That boredom leads to nothing but more internet time or bad choices while hanging out with friends.” Your teen sees unlimited gaming/phone time, hanging out with friends, late nights, sleeping until the early afternoon and eating like crap as a […]