You want your teen to connect with friends and collaborate in meaningful activities that build communication and team dynamics, but do they have to it from different homes while YELLING AT THE TOP OF THEIR LUNGS!! Wasn’t that the point of wearing a headset so you didn’t need to?


The constant nagging to get your teen to prioritize their time or energy into literally anything else feels like pushing a boulder uphill. When you ask for the simplest things with reasonable notice, you get snapped at or perhaps more annoying…

“Mom! I can’t pause the game!”

Your life doesn’t have a pause button either (but wouldn’t’ that be awesome?) and you’re fed up waiting for the game to end while dinner is getting cold. Asking your teen to give up gaming will bring the digital war into your house but now you regret ever buying it (or letting your teen buy it) and are worried they’re addicted.

Your daily attempts to create reasonable limits are getting more heated, and your desire to rip the console from the wall, throw it on the road and drive over it a few times just hit all-time high.

What about the impact on your teen’s brain?

I poured over several studies and here’s my summary. Too much of any gaming can change the brain’s development and lead to addiction.

However, strategy, creative, or learning based games with a non-violent premise (Minecraft, Rocket League, Super Mario, etc.) can improve:

First-person shooter games like Call of Duty, Fortnite, Battlefield, etc., can reduce:

Find a balance.

Collaborative/team gaming is the new ‘hanging out at the mall/park’ like when we were young and it’s not your teen’s fault they’re growing up in the digital era. Approaching limitations with greater perspective steers you away from shame, guilt, or condescension.

Here’s the 4 reasons your teen can’t get enough.

Create reasonable limits.

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