My teen is failing and doesn’t care

This week I’m on a desperately needed vacation with time away from my desk so I’ll make this short and sweet. One of the most common frustrations I hear from parents is their teen won’t do their schoolwork, like doesn’t even try, and worse yet, they don’t seem to care. You’re so frustrated and dumbfounded […]

Get Off Your Phone!

Seriously though, how frustrating is this? You’re not asking your teen to rebuild the Taj Mahal. You just want a few things done before dinner and are doing everything in your power to stay calm, knowing they’ll waste their time on social media or gaming. Again!! When you ask your teen why the task didn’t […]

Why Are You Being Difficult

How is it possible to miss your child so much when they live in the same house? And where’s your sweet, friendly, compliant child who liked to spend time together and share their thoughts and feelings? It’s hard not to take it personally. Feelings of rejection are normal and giving yourself space to grieve the […]

I Still Have Nightmares About This

This may be one of the most polarizing times in recent history. No matter where you stand in this pandemic, your position is likely based on what you learned from your parents about the power of conformity and the risk of dissention. If you were compliant, whether from fear or free will, you had the […]

Mom! I can’t pause the game!

You want your teen to connect with friends and collaborate in meaningful activities that build communication and team dynamics, but do they have to it from different homes while YELLING AT THE TOP OF THEIR LUNGS!! Wasn’t that the point of wearing a headset so you didn’t need to? PEW! PEW! PEW! The constant nagging […]

Are You Teaching Your Teen About Money

Like any loving parent, you want to give your child a good life, reasonable standard of living, and great experiences and memories to look back on. You work hard to provide that, aiming for equal or better than you had, making sacrifices along the way. That’s what a ‘good’ parent does. As a tween, your […]

The Year I Never Wanted For My Daughter

Before you skip past, thinking ‘oh, that’s not happening to my teen’ or ‘wow, that parent really needs some help’, read on. “As a child of the system, including adoption where I was worse off than where I started, I endured physical abuse, emotional manipulation, and sexual molestation. I worked hard to heal and grow, […]

Its Just Easier To Do It Myself

Having raised two sons, I know how frustrating and defeating it feels trying to get your teen to care and help out. Sometimes, it IS just easier (and faster) to do it yourself. However, continuing to enable your teen by overcompensating sets them and their future relationships up to fail. Whoa! That’s a little harsh! […]

When your teen doesn’t care about consequences

When your teen doesn’t care about consequences You’ve tried soft love, tough love, punishment, discipline, and consequences. Seriously, what’s left? It’s like trying to put a screaming toddler in a timeout after they go completely limp. You have no leverage. Your teen doesn’t care no matter what you do. You’ve watched the videos, read the […]

The #1 Question Parents Ask Me

The #1 Question Parents Ask Me This past year was HARD! Almost harder than 2020 because our lives were supposed to go back to normal this year. ‘Just do this one more thing and we’ll be good’, they said. Or ‘after this, we can reopen’, they promised. 2021 was filled with false hope, moving targets […]