Behavior Correction + Consequences to Raise Compliant Teens
What if… … your teen took responsibility and made better choices after one conversation. “Just practiced using a script with my teen who stayed at his friend’s without permission…. He eventually apologized and I was able to leave the issue and not lose my temper and feel outraged. Felt good!” – Belinda But how is […]
My partner refuses to get on board
Imagine feeling fully supported by your partner while using similar strategies and aligned thinking to support your struggling teen to find their way. “I was going through a very rough patch with my son… His dad was ballistic, but I shared your videos and got him on board with staying curious and keeping the communication […]
The heartbreak of holidays with your teen
Got any plans with your teen for spring break? “She wants to talk to me, hang out with me, she’s laughing more, and even asking my advice.” – Nikki H. Over the holidays, I saw a lot of posts in my community from heartbroken, amazing, parents whose teenager or young adult had a very different […]
Why loving intentions aren’t enough
Breaking generational cycles with your teen, AND feeling happier and more fulfilled yourself, is exactly what parents in my programs experience. “I will forever be grateful for you and your message. By listening to you, I became aware of some issues from my childhood that are impacting my marriage and parenting. I am now seeing […]
Why motivating teens to care about school isn’t working
Navigating the choppy waters of teenage education can feel like steering a ship through a storm, especially when your teen seems disengaged and unmotivated at school. I’m Allie Payne, a certified life coach and relationship systems coach, and I’ve walked this path myself. From being a straight-A student to battling with my own academic performance, […]
Are you raising a lazy teen?
Ugh! It’s just easier to do it yourself, right? Having raised two sons, I know how frustrating and defeating it feels trying to get your teen to care or help with even the most basic task. Sometimes, it IS just easier (and faster) to do it yourself. However, continuing to enable your teen by overcompensating sets them […]
Most days I was barely breathing
Happy New Year! Is it just me or does seeing and writing 2-0-2-4 feel futuristic? I mean, I remember when…. Good grief I’m getting old! 😂😬 Thank God I’m never too old to grow, learn, and heal. TLDR; scroll down to register for my LIVE Masterclass January 17th! I talk about emotional regulation a lot […]
The #1 belief ruining your relationship with your teen
Remember the days when your child asked what you thought and valued your input in their life? Remember when they would do what you asked, even begrudgingly, but they did it almost when and how you wanted? Remember when you felt safe with a sense of control and influence over another human that validated your […]
My teen doesn’t respect my boundaries or care about consequences
One of the biggest frustrations I hear from parents is, “my teen doesn’t respect my boundaries”, or “I tried setting boundaries, but it didn’t work”. That frustration leads to the next one – “I tried setting consequences, but my teen keeps (fill in the blank)”, “my teen doesn’t care about consequences so now what do […]
What if parenting wasn’t so isolating and lonely?
How many times have you held back the truth of your parenting struggles because of fear of judgement or criticism? Do you have a selective few who know ‘the truth’ and the rest just get lip service so they don’t ask more questions? I was afraid too. I was the only one of my girlfriends […]