For heaven’s sake, toughen up.
If your teen had been with you when you were young, they’d never survive! Bullying and name calling were leadership skills (on and off the school grounds) and no one was coming running if you felt offended or triggered. You survived so much worse…minus social media and a global pandemic.
According to Canada’s Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, anxiety IS on the rise in young people aged 15 to 24, who are more likely to experience mental illness and/or substance use disorders than any other age group. And with 70% of mental health problems having their onset during childhood or adolescence, it’s more than being cool, a fad or attention seeking tool.
Just because you never experienced it, or don’t understand it doesn’t mean it’s not happening.
They think they’ve failed you.
Do you see the irony? Your teen thinks if you knew their scary thoughts and feelings, you’d be disappointed, angry, annoyed and much worse. Their fear of telling you what they can’t make sense of only adds to their struggle.
Teens are masters at masking big stuff making it even more important for you to notice their demeanor and listen to subtle hints.
If you suspect there’s more going on with your teen than they’re letting on, wade in gently and compassionately, as many times as it takes.
Supporting your teen through mental health challenges is all part of the parenting package that doesn’t equate to a terrible reflection on you! Support them because you’re an AMAZING AND LOVING parent and assure them they haven’t failed you either.
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