You hear about it every day on social media. Parents and experts espousing this unachievable fantasy of raising a respectful teen without using generations old methods to teach your teen what’s right and wrong.
(YOU: shaking your head) Pfft!!
You’re thinking: “Good for you, whatever your name is. I’m raising my teen to succeed in the real world and their future boss won’t be pandering or coddling their emotions. They either do what they’re told or they’ll get fired.”
Worse yet, what would that say about your parenting??
This is exactly what I thought until I realized commanding my children’s respect meant learning what respect actually means! Plus, proven strategies to leverage respect for lasting behaviour change.
I knew I wanted to connect with my sons so they felt safe to share emotions with me and trust me with the challenges and struggles rather than hide those. That sounded good until…
Their emotions were messy and non-linear, and much harder to control than I thought. I was afraid of losing control and not being a good parent, so I went back to what felt familiar and safe for me…
…more control and consequences.
Literally overnight my sons were acting out more with higher emotional escalations and less willing to do what I was asking, especially my oldest with ASD/ADHD who dug in his heels further. The constant conflict was exhausting, and the power struggles never ended.
I felt confused and frustrated trying to change but still being a good and moral parent, whose children had a healthy understanding of authority.
In spite of the judgement from family and friends who had endless advice on what I needed to do differently to get my oldest under control, I dove headfirst into unlearning and relearning how to be the parent my sons needed that felt good for me too.
In this video, I’ll explain:
- Why the parenting style you were raised with was outdated even before you were born (but no one told your parents either).
- How your fear of not being a ‘good parent’ might be driving this exhausting and fruitless cycle.
- How the tween/teen brains learns so adapting your parenting now gets you more of what you really want now and into adulthood (AKA the real world).
“I really resonated with your program. I took a step back and realized it was my attitude towards my son. He’s a good kid, and I wasn’t giving him credit. We’re now building a more compassionate and respectful relationship. Your strategies make so much sense! Thank you.” Syndi D. K.
“I’ve found this very helpful and empowering. I’m always being told … unless I pretty much scare my kids to death they’ll walk all over me. It’s so good to hear I can parent well without compromising myself. I really love your boundaries and consequences method…!”- Nicola G.
⬆️ These courageous parents didn’t come to me asking how to be nicer or maintain control. They’d tried everything they could and were ready for proven strategies backed by science with personalized, daily support.
But you can start making this shift right now in my free masterclass where I unpack my 3 step framework.
You can have better communication, a calmer household, and mutual respect without giving up control. Tap the link above to get started.