When your teen’s fear of failure stops them from trying

What if your teen willingly faced challenges even when things felt hard? “… my teen had a full-on meltdown after attempting challenging math homework that she is super behind and told me she will just give up and not even try. I tried the statements Aly taught me and left her alone… After dinner my […]
4 Ways You’re Pushing Your Teen Away

What if you knew exactly what connection meant to your teen and how to quickly create it? “So I just did it… I went to my daughter’s room and shared very openly and vulnerable, … I said that I love her and want to be a better, supportive mom … And we had a moment […]
Behavior Correction + Consequences to Raise Compliant Teens

What if… … your teen took responsibility and made better choices after one conversation. “Just practiced using a script with my teen who stayed at his friend’s without permission…. He eventually apologized and I was able to leave the issue and not lose my temper and feel outraged. Felt good!” – Belinda But how is […]
Fighting without freaking your teen out

What do you feel or think when you hear the word conflict? For most people, that word creates a physical reaction like fear, avoidance, terror, shutting down or running away. Studies also show an increase in heart rate, blood pressure and body temperature. Run away! Run away!! Unfortunately, conflict is a key ingredient for all […]
When Teens Push Back: How to Set Boundaries Your Teen Will Actually Follow

This is one of the most frustrating things for parents who are truly trying to use healthy relationship tools to guide and direct their teenager yet end up feeling more frustrating and seeing little to no change. It’s okay to feel at a loss about this! I admire and respect your courage for wanting to […]
My teen doesn’t respect my boundaries or care about consequences

One of the biggest frustrations I hear from parents is, “my teen doesn’t respect my boundaries”, or “I tried setting boundaries, but it didn’t work”. That frustration leads to the next one – “I tried setting consequences, but my teen keeps (fill in the blank)”, “my teen doesn’t care about consequences so now what do […]