This is one of the greatest frustrations I hear from parents. Let’s set the scene:

You’re sitting at the table as you family finishes eating dinner. You set down your cutlery, make eye contact with your teen and say, “(NAME), you’re on dishes tonight, ok?” Maybe you’re asking or it was already their turn and you’re just reminding them. 

Your teen looks away and mumbles, “Mm-hmm.”

Every fibre of your being wants to believe your teen but the pattern feels all too familiar and you don’t know how to end this exhausting cycle. Your stress level begins to rise as you forecast an evening of reminding, impending nagging and a possible blow up.

How are you supposed to trust them when they don’t follow through?

What if you I told you that breaking the pattern meant changing YOUR thinking before your teen changes THEIR behaviour?

In 1960, Douglas McGregor formulated Theory X and Theory Y 

 suggesting two aspects of human behaviour at work (yes, it applies to parenting too).

Theory X managers tend to:

Research shows the response to Theory X management style is higher levels of procrastination, shirking responsibility, lack of ownership, and low productivity. The manager’s lack of trust becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy requiring more micromanagement with higher levels of ‘motivation and rewards’ that only work short term, if at all.

Theory Y managers tend to:

Theory Y management has regular appraisals used to encourage staff and open communication. Staff are empowered to express their own values within their roles creating internal motivation and more meaningful work environments.

What style of parent are you?

Waiting for your teen to change FIRST so you can change your parenting style is a losing game, much as it might feel safer because you have no skin in the game and keep your story of how lazy and irresponsible your teen is.

The truth is, it’s YOUR move.

Theory X managers can and have been converted to Theory Y managers, or a solid middle ground, by owning their fear that drives control, understanding the nuances of trust and emotional connection to empower and support internal motivation in their staff. 

Are you ready to change your mind?

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