Last week, I was at an Amanda Marshall concert.
The lights went down as the first notes filled the darkened arena, and before she even reached “I believe in you,” I was crying and singing off-key with everything I had.
In an instant, I was back in my car at a Wal-Mart parking lot in 1998, hearing the words my heart had longed to hear.
Because those four words?
They’re everything I wanted to hear as a teen when I was failing classes, skipping school, and pretending I didn’t care.
And everything I craved years later as a parent—running on empty, hiding in the bathroom to cry after another homework meltdown, wondering if my son with ADHD and anxiety would ever be okay.
💔 Instead, I heard: “You’re too soft.”
💔 “If you’d just be more consistent…”
💔 “He’ll grow out of it.”
But never:
“I see you. I believe in you.”
And I’m pretty sure that’s what you need to hear too.
Because you’re not sitting back doing nothing.
You’re trying everything—nagging about homework, reminding them to hand in missing assignments, taking away the phone, grounding, “logical consequences,” new therapists, tutors, sticker charts—whatever might finally work to fix school refusal or late-night study meltdowns.
You go to bed exhausted.
You wake up dreading the next school battle.
And you paste on a smile even though inside you’re terrified your teen’s future is slipping away.
And yet…
The more you push, the more they pull away.
The more you control, the more they shut down.
The harder you try, the further you feel from the parent you wanted to be.
And what your teen actually needs most?
Not more rules.
Not harsher consequences.
Not another lecture about grades.
They need one person to look past the slammed doors, the unfinished homework, the missing assignments and say:
“I believe in you.”
✨ That’s when defenses drop.
✨ That’s when hope returns.
✨ That’s when change actually sticks.
And you need that too.
Because you’re not failing. You’re fighting harder than anyone sees.
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So let me say it right now:
I believe in you. 🤗
Sincerely,
Aly
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