Why motivating teens to care about school isn’t working

Navigating the choppy waters of teenage education can feel like steering a ship through a storm, especially when your teen seems disengaged and unmotivated at school. I’m Allie Payne, a certified life coach and relationship systems coach, and I’ve walked this path myself. From being a straight-A student to battling with my own academic performance, […]

Are you raising a lazy teen?

Ugh! It’s just easier to do it yourself, right? Having raised two sons, I know how frustrating and defeating it feels trying to get your teen to care or help with even the most basic task. Sometimes, it IS just easier (and faster) to do it yourself.  However, continuing to enable your teen by overcompensating sets them […]

My teen doesn’t respect my boundaries or care about consequences

One of the biggest frustrations I hear from parents is, “my teen doesn’t respect my boundaries”, or “I tried setting boundaries, but it didn’t work”. That frustration leads to the next one – “I tried setting consequences, but my teen keeps (fill in the blank)”, “my teen doesn’t care about consequences so now what do […]

What if parenting wasn’t so isolating and lonely?

How many times have you held back the truth of your parenting struggles because of fear of judgement or criticism? Do you have a selective few who know ‘the truth’ and the rest just get lip service so they don’t ask more questions? I was afraid too. I was the only one of my girlfriends […]

5 Steps to calm your explosive teen

It doesn’t matter what you do, they’re flying off the handle – yelling, physically violent, and once that happens, there’s no calming them down. You’ve tried supporting them, you’ve tried shutting them down, you’ve even tried punishing, yet nothing is working. Now you’re afraid to go out because the public or familial consequences of having […]