Author: Aly Pain

Growing up, Aly was the smart, fun girl on the outside and a frantic, anxious mess on the inside. She spent years healing the pain of dysfunctional family relationships, including eating disorders and a suicide attempt to break the cycle raising her own teen boys. Aly's passion is empowering parents to build healthy, respectful relationships with their teens without giving up or giving up, even if they've tried everything and are at their wits end. She's built an online audience of over 560K followers and has been featured in the New York Post, ABC Nightly News and the Rachael Ray Show.

The school called. Now what?

https://youtu.be/-EfAPQM335g Before you go off the deep end, take a deep breath. Parents have an unspoken expectation that their children are a reflection of their most enlightened selves. All your good qualities on display in a smaller, younger person. Our children make bad choices just like adults do so taking this personally won’t help. Number […]

The Problem with Mothers and Daughters

https://youtu.be/HII9If_Usy8 “Congratulations on your baby girl! She’s beautiful. As she grows up, remember this… They’ll never be a relationship more important to her than the one she has with you. Every word you speak to her will become her truth. Her job isn’t to help you heal your past with your mom. It’s your job […]

We Can’t Have it Both Ways

https://youtu.be/nNnq3bSYc_0 We can’t have it both ways. We don’t get to complain about the younger generation being lazy and entitled when we’re not going to teach them things at home. If we want them to stand up and take responsibility for their lives and be accountable, then we, as parents need to teach them those […]

Raising an Entitled Teen

https://youtu.be/sYa1eXw0RgE The growing sense of entitlement in our younger generations is not some mysterious mental health outbreak. It’s a fundamental negative shift in our parenting. Your children learn about their value from you. So if you are always compromising your own value to make them feel better about themselves, by rescuing, not setting boundaries, no […]

Chasing Waterfalls

https://youtu.be/KIh_xbk44mA I was particularly stressed about taking this trip, as much as I knew I needed it, because it was off-grid. That means NO CELL SERVICE! I felt like a teenager whose parent threatened to turn off the WiFi. As we headed out of town with our tent trailer in tow, the point where my […]

I’m the Parenting Expert on What She Said!

I’m so excited to share this podcast with you! I’m now the Parenting Expert and regular contributor on What She Said with Candace Sampson! In this episode, we’re talking about 2 key ways to support your teen in school. Pre-pandemic expectations aren’t going to fly for many teens as their learning style may not meet […]

School Lunches

https://youtu.be/GInlFXfJOGE I’m a little fired up. I just read a comment from a mom on Facebook, asking for suggestions on what to make her 15 year old for lunches this year. Did you say 15? I’m going to try and say this as nicely as I can. If you’re a parent of a 15-year-old, you […]

Raising Independent Teens

https://youtu.be/1NBUCCsZYlw Mamas. I know you love your kids and doing stuff for them like cooking and cleaning is one of the ways that you show that. Of course it is! And we all love to be needed. It’s human. My question is when does your need to be needed get in the way of your […]

Because I Said So!

https://youtu.be/Bw8E-YiFZ4k “Because I said so” is a dismissive cop-out if your teenagers being a bit disrespectful with you, because that was the answer you came up with, you kind of had it coming. If your boss said that to you, you wouldn’t like it either, because I said so is a power and control move. […]