Raising Independent Teens

Mamas. I know you love your kids and doing stuff for them like cooking and cleaning is one of the ways that you show that. Of course it is! And we all love to be needed. It’s human.

My question is when does your need to be needed get in the way of your child learning to be independent?

As a teenager, I would have loved if my mother did everything for me, but she still showed me how to cook and clean and helped me when I needed it.

Here’s the part I need you to know – when I went away to university from a small town to a huge city and living in residence, I knew how to take care of myself, how to cook and how to clean. And I was one of the only 18 year olds that knew that!

So in an otherwise very anxiety provoking transition in life, I could just worry about my homework and have the confidence to know I was going to be okay. And what mattered was I learned that at home, not months before I left…. way back when I was a teen.

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Aly Pain

Growing up, Aly was the smart, fun girl on the outside and a frantic, anxious mess on the inside. She spent years healing the pain of dysfunctional family relationships, including eating disorders and a suicide attempt to break the cycle raising her own teen boys. Aly's passion is empowering parents to build healthy, respectful relationships with their teens without giving up or giving up, even if they've tried everything and are at their wits end. She's built an online audience of over 560K followers and has been featured in the New York Post, ABC Nightly News and the Rachael Ray Show.