When your teen doesn’t care about consequences

Your teen doesn’t care no matter what you do.  You’ve watched the videos, read the posts, followed the steps, and it’s NOT WORKING! Nothing fazes them and they’re not changing. You’ve tried conversations, sharing your beliefs, and discussing why your teen’s behaviour isn’t working. Still nothing.  You’re at your wits end, feeling defeated and frustrated.  […]

The #1 Question Parents Ask Me

2021 was filled with false hope, moving targets and more unknowns that created unprecedented mental health struggles, pushing both adults and teens to the brink. From online schooling to lack of athletic pursuits and social connection, teens felt isolated, lost, and anxious.  “How can I motivate my teenager? They don’t care about anything.”  That’s the […]

You Don’t Understand

This seems simple, but it’s not.  Sure, you were a teen so it’s not unfamiliar territory – the relationship drama of who said what to whom, the mean teacher who gives too much homework and doesn’t care if you had a rough day and having to be ‘social media perfect’ every moment to avoid judgement […]

Your Teen Won’t Try If It’s Not Safe To Fail

There’s no reward in normal.  The years of pristine, unstained report cards before had gone almost unnoticed with a glance and barely a smile from my parents. No ‘great job’, ‘well done’ or ‘we’re so proud of you’. Just the nonchalance of every day normal that didn’t warrant a comment, hug or special meal.  That […]

Tips to Un-Spoil your Teen this Christmas

Not to mention your resentment because no matter what you buy them, they don’t seem to care anyway.  Your teen isn’t ungrateful or entitled and you haven’t failed as a parent.  Experience creates perspective.  Your teen has never worked a full-time job to pay a mortgage, keep the place warm with lights on, kept a […]

It’s not what you see, it’s what you don’t

On November 17th I lost a friend. A man who seemed larger than life with a heart for serving others, spontaneous adventure and childlike play through sports and outdoor activities. He desperately wanted to be a reliable employee and team member, the perfect husband to his loving wife and a safe, kind and caring father […]

Setting Boundaries with Family Around the Holidays

Let’s not forget the family circus trying to create the perfect photo wearing matching pajamas while drinking eggnog in front of the fireplace where moments before, there were impatient commands and crying kids. Then, just as you got everyone posed and the camera timer went off, the dog jumped up and knocked the tripod over […]

Having ‘The Talk” With Your Teen

God and sex.  We went to church on Sundays, we just didn’t talk about God any other day. Based on results, there was sex at least twice (Exhibit A and B – my sister and I) but we didn’t talk about the birds and the bees either.  To my parent’s credit, studies show these are […]

I caught my boyfriend cheating on me

Laughter and was our thing. We laughed until we couldn’t breathe about silly things and I was intoxicated; feeling accepted, loved and free to talk about anything and everything. Sure, we partied and did stupid things too, but not more or less than I would’ve without him. Two years later we’d gotten serious and were […]

This is all YOUR fault!

“I hate you!” “If you loved me this wouldn’t happen!” When your teenager lashes out because all their problems and pain are your fault and now you’ve ruined their life, it’s heartbreaking. Ouch. It’s like stabbing a knife in your heart, twisting it around, ripping it out, and then driving over it a few times. […]