Are You Teaching Your Teen About Money

Like any loving parent, you want to give your child a good life, reasonable standard of living, and great experiences and memories to look back on. You work hard to provide that, aiming for equal or better than you had, making sacrifices along the way. That’s what a ‘good’ parent does. As a tween, your […]

The Year I Never Wanted For My Daughter

Before you skip past, thinking ‘oh, that’s not happening to my teen’ or ‘wow, that parent really needs some help’, read on. “As a child of the system, including adoption where I was worse off than where I started, I endured physical abuse, emotional manipulation, and sexual molestation. I worked hard to heal and grow, […]

You Don’t Understand

There’s nothing more heartbreaking than offering sincere support to your teenager and getting your head bitten off. Apparently, the kindness you extended wasn’t what they were looking for and you’re not feeling motivated to try again. This seems simple, but it’s not. Sure, you were a teen so it’s not unfamiliar territory – the relationship […]

Your Teen Won’t Try If It’s Not Safe To Fail

I remember in high school the first time I brought home a report card with a B. It stood out like a neon light between all the A’s and screamed the words I’d been running from for years. “You’re not perfect. You’re a failure.” There’s no reward in normal. The years of pristine, unstained report […]

Tips to Un-Spoil your Teen this Christmas

When your teen hands you their extravagant Christmas list filled with expensive tech, you feel a wave of nausea at the financial reality, then react with laughter, criticism, or ridicule, wondering where they think your money tree grows. Not to mention your resentment because no matter what you buy them, they don’t seem to care […]

It’s not what you see, it’s what you don’t

TRIGGER WARNING – this may be unsettling as I share a recent loss and my experience with suicide. On November 17th I lost a friend. A man who seemed larger than life with a heart for serving others, spontaneous adventure and childlike play through sports and outdoor activities. He desperately wanted to be a reliable […]

Setting Boundaries with Family Around the Holidays

Ah, the holidays. That most wonderful time of year when you cram everything in your vehicle, tell your kids to stop touching each other 1000 times while refereeing who picks the music to spend a few, sensory-overloaded days with your family, sleeping on lumpy pull-out sofas or getting bounced off the airbed when your partner […]

Is your teen the boss of your emotions?

  No matter how many times I decided I was strong enough, no matter how exhausted I felt trying to carry the emotional load, no matter how many days it had been since the last good one, no matter how desperately I wanted to feel truly free, I couldn’t do it. Every morning I’d wait […]