Boundaries – They are not what you think
The truth is that style of parenting creates insecurity, anxiety, codependence, and even trauma without higher and higher levels of control. Perhaps the same ones you’re trying on your teen that are fueling conflict and disconnection right now. “I turned out just fine!” You haven’t worked this hard to get this far and you’re not […]
Are You Teaching Your Teen About Money
That’s what a ‘good’ parent does. As a tween, your child’s becoming more independent and doing things with friends, so you offer ‘fun money’ to grab a slurpee, coffee or whatever the treat of the day is. You rework your budget for increased costs in food consumption, activities, pursuing passions, and replacing outgrown clothing. Where’s […]
The Year I Never Wanted For My Daughter
“As a child of the system, including adoption where I was worse off than where I started, I endured physical abuse, emotional manipulation, and sexual molestation. I worked hard to heal and grow, providing my own children with the emotional health and stability I never had. Somewhere along the line I got off track with […]
When your teen doesn’t care about consequences
Your teen doesn’t care no matter what you do. You’ve watched the videos, read the posts, followed the steps, and it’s NOT WORKING! Nothing fazes them and they’re not changing. You’ve tried conversations, sharing your beliefs, and discussing why your teen’s behaviour isn’t working. Still nothing. You’re at your wits end, feeling defeated and frustrated. […]
Your Teen Won’t Try If It’s Not Safe To Fail
There’s no reward in normal. The years of pristine, unstained report cards before had gone almost unnoticed with a glance and barely a smile from my parents. No ‘great job’, ‘well done’ or ‘we’re so proud of you’. Just the nonchalance of every day normal that didn’t warrant a comment, hug or special meal. That […]
Tips to Un-Spoil your Teen this Christmas
Not to mention your resentment because no matter what you buy them, they don’t seem to care anyway. Your teen isn’t ungrateful or entitled and you haven’t failed as a parent. Experience creates perspective. Your teen has never worked a full-time job to pay a mortgage, keep the place warm with lights on, kept a […]
It’s not what you see, it’s what you don’t
On November 17th I lost a friend. A man who seemed larger than life with a heart for serving others, spontaneous adventure and childlike play through sports and outdoor activities. He desperately wanted to be a reliable employee and team member, the perfect husband to his loving wife and a safe, kind and caring father […]
Setting Boundaries with Family Around the Holidays
Let’s not forget the family circus trying to create the perfect photo wearing matching pajamas while drinking eggnog in front of the fireplace where moments before, there were impatient commands and crying kids. Then, just as you got everyone posed and the camera timer went off, the dog jumped up and knocked the tripod over […]
The ‘Chipper Chicken’ Sister’s Weekend
The days before children. Just 17 months apart, my sister and I had always been close yet completely different in so many ways. We ‘got’ each other. We played together for hours in make-believe worlds of our future careers and creative eruptions with craft supplies strewn from one end of the kitchen to the other. We were called […]