Ending the School Power Struggle

HOW TO BECOME YOUR TEEN'S ACADEMIC ALLY

How to become your teen’s academic ally without just letting them fail, even if they’ve stopped caring or trying.

“Yesterday, my teen had a full on meltdown after attempting challenging math homework that she is super behind and told me she was going to give up and not even try. I tried the statements Aly taught me and left her alone. Usually, I’m so worked up because of these daily episodes. After dinner my daughter asked me "Is it okay if I don't help with dishes, but I restart my homework?". Then I said, "I’m proud of you for giving it another try". This is a huge win and I managed to feel good and more confident."

S.H.

What would it be like to trust your teen is doing their best while feeling calmer and more connected to them, without the daily nagging and reminders to get their work done?

It is possible. I’ve helped hundreds of parents have this exact experience and on March 14th, you can too.

Does this sound familiar?

"She just forces herself to do what she needs to do for school to get the grades she wants, but there is no happiness, no drive, no joy, no curiosity and it’s just survival."

"He’s failing out of school, smoking weed all the time, and doesn’t take care of any of his responsibilities."

"I feel like she’s slipping away into a dangerous place."

"She has been late to school multiple times and she even had to serve detention because of it which recently ended in her getting suspended from school."

"I try and talk to him about it but he’s so easily triggered I don’t know how to bring it up."

"My teen is afraid of failure and unmotivated so he defaults to video games."

"He won't have a High School diploma."

"I don't want to see him make the same mistakes I did, in things as simple as school work."

You’re not a bad parent and you haven’t failed your teen, but you know that the years between middle and high school can be especially challenging. With school work piling up and your teen constantly needing reminders to focus and complete their assignments, it’s easy to feel frustrated, exhausted and scared.

You’re not alone. Many parents struggle with finding effective strategies to help their teens succeed in school, let alone care. But the good news is that it’s not too late to turn things around.

The truth is education hasn’t changed much since you were in school, but the world your teen is growing up in is vastly different so they no longer see the relevance.

Your teen sees YouTube creators and social media influencers making bank and doesn’t understand how Math, English or Social Studies are going to help them be successful.

Then there’s the pressure of being the ‘good kid’ who gets ‘good grades’ to get into the ‘best schools’ to become who your teen thinks you want them to be.

I was the ‘good kid’ with straight A’s, yet the pressure to meet the expectations of my teachers, my parents, and even my own became too much in high school.

My confidence was dropping faster than my grades and I had no study skills or coping strategies to lean on. Asking for help was weak and only for bad students so I kept silent, terrified for anyone to see the truth.

I started skipping classes (basically every Monday), not handing in assignments and lying to my parents about my grades, including hiding my report cards (pre-electronic era). Before I knew it, I was failing Grade 11 and my mental health was so fragile I tried taking my life.

This doesn’t have to be your teen’s path.

"SON: I really hate doing schoolwork. ME (in my head): I know you do but it's a part of life and at some point you need to just do it. ME: (outloud) I know you do, but.......I know, it sucks. For the FIRST time ever, I didn't say more. I almost added "but," but I heard Aly Pain saying "say less”, and I just stopped. Conversation over, and it didn't end in a fight or him walking away because he was so tired of me bringing school up. And he actually did work without an argument yesterday. BABY STEPS!"

J.C.

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Topics include:

Topics NOT covered:

Significant mental health diagnosis beyond general anxiety, depression symptoms, ADHD
Substance or technology addictions

What you'll learn:

Understanding your teen’s behaviour to better support their needs
Why your teen avoids homework and would rather play video games or socialize
Unfolding anxiety, depression and what ADHD is in the brain
Proven strategies to connect with your teen to build their internal motivation
Simple ways to create a supportive and encouraging home environment
Strategies for encouraging your teen to take responsibility for their own learning

You haven’t failed and this doesn't have to mean the end of the world for your teen. Signup now and get the insight and proven tools to lower your stress and support your teen to find success on their terms.

"My son has one semester of Grade 12 left, so close to graduating, and my husband and I have talked about just pushing him to get it done. Luckily, just earlier this month, I tried this different path, to put what he needs before what I think he should do, to prioritize his mental health, which is always going to be more important than a piece of paper. He has been off school this month, and I know there are more to come, and that is ok. He has anxiety and depression, hard days, and hard moments, but also great ones. We will get through it, and I want to say thank you. You have reinforced everything I am trying, and are encouraging and heartfelt."

C.P.

"Thank you SO much for that awesome information. Everything you were saying was spot on and exactly what I needed to hear to support my depressed boy who just failed out of his first semester of college. He is in his shame story and you just gave me so many practical tips to help support him. Endlessly appreciative."

C.C.

Ending the School Power Struggle